That Thing Called ‘Marital Rape’
‘It’ does not exist according to about 70% of my male colleagues.They believe that there is nothing like rape in marriage; that it is one’s obligation to fulfill their partner’s sexual needs whenever.
Naturally, humans have mood swings. There are those times when a person; your partner, however much they love you, will not afford or for that matter be ready for coitus.We all have an element of ‘savage instincts’ but what makes us human is the ability to have self-control to a greater extent.
As a medic, I always take rounds in the labor suites.Many a times, I find very bitter women.
One lady, a mother of ten, had complications during the birth of her eleventh child. She pleaded with the acting surgeon to do a tubal ligation; saying that the husband did not care about anything but his own satisfaction.
Another lady, a mother of four, I found in the Anti-Retroviral Therapy (ART) clinic, sobbing. In her eyes, I could read something beyond bitterness. Anguish! Her husband, an adulterous man, on proving that he was infected with HIV, forced her into coitus, claiming that he would not face death alone.
Women, being the physically weaker sex are always the victims. My heart bleeds for such ladies; many of whom swore that they would last till death did them part. Moreover these are cases that will not always feature in courts of law for some reasons; both known and unknown.
The question stands; who do you turn to when the one that you chose over the rest turns into a monster?
nabimanyaviola 